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Paula F. Mark

Calling hours at the Wrisley Funeral Home, Sugarloaf Street, South Deerfield, will be held on Sunday, September 9, 2018 from 3:00 - 5:00PM. A Memorial Service will be held on Sunday, November 11, 2018, from 2:00-4:00PM at UMass-Amherst Campus Center

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                   Paula F. Mark

        June 20, 1926 - August 24. 2018

We met in late December 1951 that is 67 years ago, at the University of Otago in Dunedin, New Zealand, the oldest university of that country. She was 26 and I 29. What a better combination of ages for a love relationship? We worked in the same office, just the two of us. I was an immigrant and she was a local girl. With a master's degree, she had a job in the university administration. From the first moment I saw her, I felt that I met my life's companion. We came from as distant places of Mother Earth as could be. Yet the ancestors of both of my parents and the ancestors on her father's side were all citizens of the same, vast Austro-Hungarian Empire. It was broken up exactly 100 years ago, by the majority of Slavic peoples, who were neither German nor Hungarian.

 

In 1954 we moved to America, to Long Island, where I had some relatives. When I started teaching, Paula found a job at the local library, of which later on she became a director. She won a scholarship to study library science at Columbia University and earned her second MA.

 

When I found a position in sociology and chairmanship at the Massachusetts College of Liberal Arts in 1970 (then called North Adams State College), Paula was readily accepted by UMass library and worked for over 20 years as a reference librarian, a job which she loved up to her retirement. Our two daughters moved far away from our home, I often traveled worldwide, yet she never complained of being left at home alone. How many wives would be as tolerant toward their husbands as that?

 

When  I saw her last time in late afternoon of August 23 at Bay State hospital in the 7th month of her hospitalization and rehabilitation and hospitalization again, in the seventh month of lost hopes, her eyes were closed, her mouth slightly open  but unable to speak. What could I do for her? I sang to her Czech lullabies, touching ones, since I knew no English ones. My little dove, fly away to another realm, may be to one of the multiple universes. You were the love of my life. The following morning before 5 am she passed away.

 

Charles Mark. Professor emeritus of sociology, MCLA, her husband.


Besides her husband she is survived by her daughters Vera and Judith (Peng Xu) and her grandchildren Julien (Elena), Benjamin (Maria), Gillian (Sean), Grace (Nick).

 

Calling hours at the Wrisley Funeral Home, Sugarloaf Street, South Deerfield, will be held on Sunday, September 9, 2018 from 3:00 - 5:00PM. A Memorial Service will be held on Sunday, November 11, 2018, from 2:00-4:00PM at UMass-Amherst Campus Center.
Expressions of sympathy are available at: www.wrisleyfuneralhome.com